What would you have done?

Today when I picked my son up from school, there was a father with about a one-year-old on his hip. He had taken his child out of the stroller while they waited outside. (They had a dog in tow as well.) The child had on no hat, no mittens, and- get this- no socks or shoes.


I live in the northern part of the country. It%26#039;s cold here right now. The child%26#039;s feet were bright red.


Given that this person is a nodding aquaintence and that your children and his children will be attending the same schools for the next nine years, what, if anything, would you have said to him about the baby not being dressed for the weather?

What would you have done?
I would have said: %26quot;Dude, those baby feet look cold.%26quot;
Reply:I would have said something, then regretted saying it later. It is true how some dad%26#039;s are clueless. He probably didn%26#039;t even realise. Attending the same school as your children could jeopardise their friendships but. But if his child was to become sick, this too may affect you children. It%26#039;s a hard situation as you do not know how he would have reacted.
Reply:People like you need to mind your own business. The kid will be fine. When my son was 3 and we were sleeping, he ran outside in 0 degree winter bare foot and a diaper because he heard a siren and wanted to see. What happened? Nothing. Beleive it or not he%26#039;s still alive and 20 now.
Reply:Thats what is wrong with the world today too many people turn their heads ..Ya i think you should have said something ..It is your business ..Thats why people are so bad these days ..I feel for you though it was a difficult situation im sure..
Reply:nothing not my business.


and having his kid and your kid going to the same school doesnt really have anything to do with the way the child was dressed.





if you were to however say something..to try and not sound rude , maybe just go up to the dad and start talking to him, then look at the baby and say%26quot; aww you cute little thing, look at your feet they%26#039;re all red..are you cold? aww your so cute%26quot; and then move on and keep talking to the dad not to make it obvious..i said that because thats what i saw a lady do once to a lady that had her kid with barely anything on a cold day.





i wouldnt say anything because its not my business, even if i didnt like/agree with what was happening.
Reply:Knowing me I would have spoken right up. The child is more important than social graces.
Reply:I would of started to look around on the ground and told the guy did your baby lose his socks?


Just keep an eye on him next time and see if you see it again..
Reply:That is a tough one... I mean it isn%26#039;t your child, so really is it any of your business? But at the same time the childs safety is important.


I probably wouldn%26#039;t have had the courage to say anything....but I would pay attention and see if he does it all the time.


But if you know the mother then maybe you could mention it to her...... Sorry I am no help!
Reply:In this precise case silence is far from golden...


I would have talked my head off..
Reply:I think I would have been as polite as possible and made some small talk while offering to hold the baby so he could handle the dog. I would then have wrapped the child up in my comforter or spare sweat coat I always keep in my car until he was ready to go and chat about the cold weather, I live in the north country too, and hope he got the hint.....hehe
Reply:The exact context is the critical thing; what was the weather; what temp what wind? The exact details make all the difference. If the Dad was all buttoned up with hat and mittens then it%26#039;s clear that you should say something. I%26#039;m sure that was not the case since no reasonable person would even ask the question in that situation; the Dad is a nut. If the Dad was wearing just wearing a shirt and no heavy coat, hat, or mittens then really there is no issue; that baby is just fine!
Reply:I wouldn%26#039;t have the guts to say anything to him. Just try and put yourself in his place- would you want someone coming up to you and saying something about how you dressed your child? It%26#039;s probably best not to say anything.
Reply:I would have walked up and said something like,%26quot;It sure did get colder of all a sudden!%26quot; as I put something around the baby.I know that there are lots of great dads out there but some dads and moms just don%26#039;t realize that a baby can%26#039;t take the cold like an adult can even for a short period of time. Besides what is he going to say to you? My child likes frost bitten toes! The child%26#039;s safety comes first.
Reply:I more than likely would have said something concerning the weather as I suggest you may want to do in the future to prevent yourself from feeling guilty later on.
Reply:You know....maybe the one yr old had a blanket in the stroller or maybe the baby even had socks, mittens and/or a hat on, but took them off in the stroller??





Dads can be clueless sometimes...if it was a one time occurance, then I wouldnt be too concerned. Do you know the mom? Maybe you could jokingly say, %26quot;I cant believe your husband had the baby out the other day with no socks or hat on, what was he thinking?? It was really cold!%26quot; You know, something to that effect. Or to the dad...on that day...%26quot;did you know the baby%26#039;s socks were off? his feet look cold.%26quot; Or %26quot;Ooh...looking at the baby, is making me cold without his socks and hat on%26quot;





I am from the south, so I would have said something light hearted and conversational, yet let the dad know the baby%26#039;s feet are COLD.
Reply:I would have said something to him about the baby%26#039;s red feet. You should not mind your own business when someone is being hurt and neglected.
Reply:i would have offered a blanket or my jacket for the baby. Rude as that seems or not childs safety is top priority
Reply:It s a different time nowadays. You can%26#039;t really interfere or say anything because they will simply tell you to mind your own business. Long ago if a child was in danger, or a person would fall down, you would do anything to give a hand, help them and be respectful and thanked after all. Now if you try to help a child that has fallen down let s say, the parent or even the child will start screaming saying you pushed them. The times have changed, no one trusts anyone anymore. It seems like less good is being done around us. And I can understand your frustration, but don%26#039;t feel bad. It would have been nice if you had helped in some way, but you never know who you are dealing with. So try and take your mind off of it. Hopefully it was just a bad day for the man or some crazy reason why that happened, and hopefully the baby will be fine.
Reply:hmm thats tough, because although ur not close with these people, its not healthy for someone that young to be out with out those things at this time, esp socks and shoes!


either just let it go, unless u see it again,


or if ur comfortable enough to, if u see the mother just mention it to her
Reply:Buy these for the child and see if they wear them.



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